His Heart Saved the Day
The intellect understands through logic, whereas the heart understands through empathy. Paralyzed with fear, Kathleen stopped suddenly in her tracks. The trail she was hiking with her husband, Zach, had come to an unexpected fork. They were assured, back at the visitors center, that all trails would be clearly marked. For the most part, that […]
The Latest Wow: Set Yourself Free!
Here’s a poem written by a client who set herself free: The wind blowing across the sea Makes me wonder what it feels like to be free I am trapped by my memories wondering why I chose that path for me Never letting go of the past, you see always punishing myself indeed […]
True to Ourselves
“Why doesn’t he leave her! I’m tired of this! I’m tired of waiting … for what … more disappointment?!” That was Jill, Trent’s girlfriend, who’s at the end of her rope. Although he claims she’s #1, he has chosen to hang on to a relationship with Laura, a woman he no longer loves. What stops […]
Make YOU Happy
Jill and Trent have been in a relationship for a long time. They love each other very deeply and treasure their time spent together. The problem? Trent can’t leave his former girlfriend, Laura. He doesn’t love her, but he can’t bring himself to cause her pain. Trent is one of those people who easily—too easily—feels guilty and […]
The Latest Wow: The Power of Love
Remember Beth? I mentioned her in an earlier post. She and Sam got a divorce several months ago but then decided to give it another go. In that post I asked her, “What made you change your mind?” She said, “I’ve discovered that anger fades a lot faster than love.” They’re living together now to discover whether the […]
She Turned Me Into a Puppet … But Puppets Can’t Love
“She turned me into a puppet, and then wondered why I no longer loved her. The answer is simple—a puppet doesn’t have a heart.” “As men, we share a single purpose: to find that one special female who will kill us just slowly enough that by the time we reach 80, we’re already dead.” To read […]
She Married Her Brother
Not really. Sheri married a man who puts her down just like her brother used to. What I really mean when I say she married her older brother is that she’s married to a pattern that began in childhood. That pattern consists of being zapped with a negative comment—like an accusation—and then reacting to it […]
Love Shouldn’t be a Prison, and True Love Isn’t
I like this quote: “Making marriage work is like operating a farm. You have to start all over again each morning.” — Anonymous One thing that assures a long-lasting relationship is kindness—each partner treating the other with the same respect, courtesy and gentleness that characterized their mode of relating in the […]
The Latest Wow: What a smart man knows
Here’s another nugget from a male client that I just had to share with you. At first I couldn’t believe my ears, but that’s what he really said! “A smart man knows when to allow himself to be manipulated by a woman. This is quite apart from giving in. Whereas, the weak man doesn’t have any […]
Introducing ‘The Latest Wow!’
I’m setting up a new category of posts called, “The Latest Wow.” Sometimes when I’m meeting with a client, I’m utterly moved by something they say. That’s when I interrupt them with, “Don’t say another word, I’ve gotta write that down!” So, without further ado, here’s the first ‘Wow”: After getting divorced, Beth and her ex decided […]