“Your mother is good for you,” I said. “Her disapproval is forcing you to become immune to disapproving attitudes. Unbeknownst to her, she’s stretching you to become self-accepting and to believe in yourself.”
Michele followed the beat of her own drum, and her family shunned her for it—especially her mother.
Parental disapproval, at any age, can send our self-esteem to the basement! It makes us question our worth, our competence and even our age.
“I notice when you talk about your mother, you go small,” I observed.
Nodding, she replied, “Yes, when it comes to her, especially, I doubt myself.”
She explained that her mother’s rejecting and disapproving manner was something she’s always had to contend with.
“How are her failings as a parent challenging you to grow stronger?” I asked.
”Because you still view her through a child’s eyes—looming larger than life—you’re susceptible to her flawedness,” I said.
We need to be identifying with the more competent, more expansive and grown-up part of ourselves.
I invite your comments.