I must share a story about Nora and her best friend, Monty. Monty, you see, is a dog, a chocolate lab who has lived a full life. He’s twelve, which I hear is equivalent to age 89 in people years.
For several months, Monty’s health has been on the decline. And because he requires a great deal of care, Nora is drained emotionally, physically and financially—costing her money she doesn’t have.
Her vet has suggested that it’s time to consider putting him down. Others have given her the same advice—including me. But despite the burden and despite the suggestions, Nora has adamantly refused. Her stance has been a mystery to me, so at one point I simply asked her, “Why?”
“He’s never been so happy,” she said. “He’s full of life and doing everything he did when he was a puppy . . . only slower. When I take him for a walk, he smiles and wags his tail at everybody! When we cross a street, he drags me over to a stopped car and stares at the driver as if he’s expecting that person to roll down the window and give him some attention. It’s hilarious! I can tell he’s a day-brightener for a lot of people.”
“And what’s he doing for you, Nora?” I asked.
“I love being greeted with that happy spirit,” she said. “He expects nothing from me. He accepts me the way I am, and I’ve had very little of that throughout my life.”
Ahhh, now it was all beginning to make sense. Monty is providing something for Nora that’s priceless—something that only the heart understands, something the practical mind misses. It’s called love, connection, acceptance and joy.
Let’s face it, as life happens, such gifts make it all worthwhile no matter how burdensome our load.
My heart was touched that day, and my capacity to see grew a notch. I thank Nora for that . . . and I thank Monty, too—a real day-brightener.
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Names are changed to honor client confidentiality.
(c) 2014 Salee Reese
ah, yes! The love of a dog. They seem to love us no matter what and need nothing in return. I think us humans need to learn from our best friends.
I love that, Alissa. So true!
Have you ever had someone in your life that never judged or questioned you?!?They also were always patient , kind, loving, forgiving, happy, (all the time) considerate, joyful, attentive etc… etc…
If you haven’t experienced this it’s probably because you have never had a dog in your family. The lessons are endless 🙂
Thank you, Karen!
What moved me about Nora’s choice was her courage to go with her heart.
Amen. Thanks Don!
The unconditional love of a dog what a wonderful gift. I would love to see humans love each other in that capacity.
Maybe they’re the evolved species.
My dad says his dogs are his saving grace after my mom passed away. I am so happy he has those little critters!!
Sweet.
There is something about your words that hit home with me. I’ve always known that I have a huge heart. I feel things very deeply. And to all those who let their heart guide them at least every once in a while……..I say, “Yay!!!!!” 😃
How beautiful, Jenn. I’m warmed to learn I have that sort of impact. AND, yes indeed, you do have a huge heart!