Salee Reese

Solitude . . . Savor it!

Snowstorms have some important lessons to teach us. First of all, they show us that the amount of control we have is pretty meager. Humbling, eh? Second, they tell us that there’s something bigger out there. (It doesn’t hurt to be reminded of that from time to time.) But there’s another lesson that struck me […]

Dominated by Guilt

Guilt, just like anger, is often used as a tool to manipulate. Last week I offered one reason why we refrain from speaking up or confronting another person. It’s the fear of igniting a thunderstorm. Another reason is guilt. One of my teenage clients, Allie, put it perfectly: “I don’t know how to stand up […]

Latest Wow: Ripe for Manipulation

“I don’t like to confront, so I’m easy to manipulate.” That “WOW” came from a mid-fortyish male client. He didn’t realize it, but he nailed a common human problem. Many of us don’t like to confront. Why are we so squeamish about confronting someone … even when it’s appropriate? There’s a wide variety of reasons. […]

Not to Upset the Family Bully, but . . .

I just have to share something with you. As a writer, I follow several blogs, one by author Kristen Lamb. She captured my attention in a recent post about bullying. Actually, she’s been cranking out post after post on that subject. In one she mentions “family bullying.”  Here’s the quote that grabbed me: For every […]

Recreate You … To Your Liking

This is the time of the year when we pause amidst our habituated routines and consider making life changes. When it comes to my clients, I typically ask two questions: “How do you want your life to look?” and “How are you hindering that … getting in your own way?” It’s impossible to act on […]