The Latest Wow: She Won’t Let it Go!
All men reading that title instantly know what it means. Yep—they do. Not only is it a common complaint among men in general, it’s a common complaint among my male clients. No question, guys would prefer—no, jump at the chance—to run a 20 mile marathon, uphill, rather than answer to a “we-need-to-talk” invitation from their female […]
The Latest Wow: Set Yourself Free!
Here’s a poem written by a client who set herself free: The wind blowing across the sea Makes me wonder what it feels like to be free I am trapped by my memories wondering why I chose that path for me Never letting go of the past, you see always punishing myself indeed […]
The Latest Wow: Fire Your Inner Critic!
I had a client tell me once: “Every time I put myself down, I’m affirming that my mother was right.” Click here to read about Dawn and Doug and how their childhoods were fertile soil for the formation of negative self-talk and low self-worth.
Make YOU Happy
Jill and Trent have been in a relationship for a long time. They love each other very deeply and treasure their time spent together. The problem? Trent can’t leave his former girlfriend, Laura. He doesn’t love her, but he can’t bring himself to cause her pain. Trent is one of those people who easily—too easily—feels guilty and […]
The Latest Wow: The Power of Love
Remember Beth? I mentioned her in an earlier post. She and Sam got a divorce several months ago but then decided to give it another go. In that post I asked her, “What made you change your mind?” She said, “I’ve discovered that anger fades a lot faster than love.” They’re living together now to discover whether the […]
The Latest Wow: Military Officer Endorses Tears
I want to share with you a touching email I received from a Naval Officer stationed in Viriginia Beach. He wrote to me after reading “Tears Are As Natural As Breathing”—the column I refer to in the previous post, “Dare to Cry.” Here it is: “Salee, I just wanted you to know that shortly after […]
The Latest Wow: Stay Out of the Mud!
Sometimes, we have to make the same mistake a bazillion times before we wake up. It’s downright humiliating! One of my clients knows this experience all too well. His mistake was assuming responsibility for the happiness of others. Since this just can’t work, he was continually banging his head against the wall. In time he woke up! I knew it when he wowed […]
The Latest Wow: Teenage Daughters Trigger Psychosis in Their Mothers
I know this is true, not because I had daughters–I had sons–but because I had a mother, and I know what I did to her. She vented about it regularly. Well, now that I’m a therapist, I hear other mothers vent. Just like my mother, I’m certain they can’t help themselves. They must vent. Maybe […]
The Latest Wow: What a smart man knows
Here’s another nugget from a male client that I just had to share with you. At first I couldn’t believe my ears, but that’s what he really said! “A smart man knows when to allow himself to be manipulated by a woman. This is quite apart from giving in. Whereas, the weak man doesn’t have any […]
Introducing ‘The Latest Wow!’
I’m setting up a new category of posts called, “The Latest Wow.” Sometimes when I’m meeting with a client, I’m utterly moved by something they say. That’s when I interrupt them with, “Don’t say another word, I’ve gotta write that down!” So, without further ado, here’s the first ‘Wow”: After getting divorced, Beth and her ex decided […]