Setting boundaries includes placing limits on what we’re willing to do for others.
Sometimes, we make the same mistake a bazillion times before finally waking up. It’s exasperating! One of my clients knows this experience all too well. His mistake was believing he had to rescue other people—mainly women. If they weren’t happy, he felt guilty and responsible. It left his spirit heavy almost all the time.
At some point, he realized that sacrificing himself senselessly was self-destructive so he chose to rescue himself, instead. I knew he had reached that step when he wowed me with something he had learned while growing up on the farm:
“You can’t get a pig out of the mud if it doesn’t want out. More often than not, you end up in the mud yourself–you get muddy. Pigs like to soak in the mud. Why try to get that other person out of the mud when they want to be there?”
(c) Salee Reese 2016